Hopefully, your limiting beliefs are becoming a thing of the past. The 7-step process in the previous lesson is effective if applied consistently. Old beliefs can be stubborn, so decide to be even more stubborn!
In this lesson, we continue our rebellion against limiting beliefs by examining how self-limiting thought patterns impede success.
Have negative thoughts ever hindered your efforts to live, learn, and grow? Your personal beliefs about yourself and your life matter more than you realize. In fact, those beliefs become the very foundation upon which you build your life.
Why not recognize your own self-sabotaging thoughts and learn how to correct them?
Some common self-limiting thoughts are:
- “I’ll never be able to save any money for retirement.”
- “I guess I won’t ever fall in love again.”
- “Why can’t I find any trustworthy friends?”
- “I’ll be fat forever.”
- “I’m sure Pat will get that promotion over me.”
- “I wish I could take a vacation to Europe, but I know I could never afford it.”
- “How will I ever live the life I want earning what I earn now?”
If you identified some of your own limiting thoughts while reading the above examples, take steps to break your cognitive ties to those thinking patterns.
Focus on these strategies to start thinking in a new direction:
- Refrain from labeling yourself. If you see yourself as “poor” financially, then you might unconsciously strive to match that label. Or if you think of yourself as “fat” you may be unable to imagine yourself as beautiful and thin.
- Take baby steps. When you continually move towards your goals, you’ll gain the momentum to keep on going. Rather than think you’re unable to achieve success, decide on the steps to take to ensure you do.
- Let’s use the example of the European vacation. Instead of believing you’ll never get there, establish a small weekly savings goal of $20, and keep putting the money aside until you have enough.
- Learn to be your own best friend. Love yourself enough to be your own best friend. Do this by giving yourself the benefit of the doubt. Think positive thoughts such as, “I can do this.” When you practice this, you’ll reject self-limiting thoughts.
- Believe in yourself. Instead of insisting you’ll “never” do something, say that you can, and then do it. If you turn those negatives into positives, it boosts your self-esteem. Trust that you can accomplish, succeed, and prevail.
- Assess the truth. Ask yourself, “Is what I’m thinking really true?” For example, is it an absolute reality that you’ll NEVER be able to save ANY money AT ALL for retirement? It doesn’t have to be true, unless you strive for that.
- Change your mindset by beginning your “retirement fund” today. At the end of the day, put all your change into a jar. Do this at the end of each day to ensure it isn’t true.
- Question your self-limiting thoughts. When you realize they’re unrealistic, untrue, and within your power to change, you’ll be able to break away.
- Recognize how powerful your negative thoughts are. You create who you are by what you think about yourself. Why not turn that power into positive energy that drives you towards the things that you want in life?
- Learn from prior errors. Instead of using your past against you, think about the knowledge you have gained from each experience. Maybe an important relationship dissolved a few years ago. The loss of that relationship doesn’t mean you’ll never find another partner again.
- Rather than getting bogged down with self-limiting thoughts, reflect on the shortcomings of your previous relationship. What part did you play? If you proactively learn from your past mistakes, you’ll make healthier choices in the future.
When you apply these strategies to your life, you’ll see the possibilities that are all around you. You can do anything you set your mind to. Extinguish those self-limiting beliefs right now so you can start embracing the good life that’s yours for the taking.
The next lesson will wrap up this module and provide you with a useful reflection process to solidify your enhanced mindset. You’ve come a long way since the beginning of the course. You have the right to be proud of yourself!
Get Started on the Tips in This Lesson:
- Make a list of the ways in which you label yourself.
- Create a new list of labels and create affirmations that support these new labels.
- Read your affirmations at bedtime each night for 10 minutes.
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