Belief – your hidden weapon


We’ve all heard that what you put out into the world you get back. I’m a firm believer in that. The more positive you can put out, the more you’ll get back into your life. I’ve been known to write notes to myself on my mirror. Each morning when I’m getting ready, that affirmation or goal is front and center in my mind.
Beliefs shape our directions. That hope will fuel you on the path to your dreams. Watch when the words “no”, “can’t” or “won’t” slip into your vocabulary. Yoda put it perfectly. “Believe you can or can’t; you’re right.”

A lot of people allow their beliefs to limit their potential. You can convince yourself that something won’t work out before you belief quoteever even start. You’ve got to keep the negative from poisoning your efforts when you have goal in mind.  If you’ll spend just 30 minutes each day doing something that focuses on moving you closer to a goal, you’ll be surprised at how productive you become.

Visualization can be a powerful tool to help focus those beliefs. If you can picture in your mind where you want to be it will help you get there. You can also create a self-fulfilling prophecy of failure if you picture yourself failing. See yourself completing the different stages in your journey. See yourself overcoming challenges. You’ll carry that energy forward and be able to use it to your advantage.

Vision boards can be a great tool to help you see where you are headed. You can have boards for different areas in your life. I like to even add words to mine. Images are great, but words have power to me. I mix inspiring quotes or just single words in with those pictures. What you focus on and dream about will become your reality.

Don’t be so quick to judge yourself harshly. Maybe your timeline isn’t moving as fast as you like – but is it moving? You need to remind yourself not to compare your journey to that of someone else. You aren’t seeing the difficult parts they overcome, just the finished product.

Be Authentically You

A lot of life’s drama is self-imposed. By avoiding it from the beginning, your first years in college can be the start of a lifetime of celebrating the things that make you uniquely you. So how can you get started on the right foot?

Be authentically you. Sounds easy, right? But we all get caught up in trying to please friends, teachers, and parents. A lot of people spend chick cliqueso much time putting on the “right” face for the “right” group, that they begin to lose what makes them unique. Make sure you let your light shine through. Allow your creativity to surface. Don’t limit yourself with someone else’s boundaries.  Make sure your actions reflect who you are.

Don’t let fear stop you. Don’t play the comparison game. You are you. If you are afraid to share your beliefs or ideas because you fear their judgement, you need to look for a different group of friends. True friends accept your differences and revel in the differences that make you, you.

I’ve seen many women struggle with a need for validation. We want the perfect grade; the perfect outfit; the perfect body; the perfect relationship. We allow drama to seep in when we let other’s opinions of how we measure up cloud our view of ourselves. When we finally realize how someone else sees us is their issue, not ours, we can let the drama go and begin to live.

It’s important to own what sets you apart from others. Use these differences as a strength. Don’t follow the crowd- lead it. Give yourself permission to be you. No one else can do it. When you have the courage to be you, you’ll feel an inner happiness that radiates and causes the right people to gravitate to you.

Dealing with setbacks


Let’s face it. Sometimes life doesn’t go as we plan. How we deal with those setbacks either propels us forward or pulls us deeper into the abyss.

Setbacks require change on your part. It’s ok that it happened. But you can’t keep putting forth the same efforts if you are expecting different results. You’ve got to be willing to try a different approach before you’ll see change take root.

Take time to look at what isn’t working. Think about why it doesn’t. You’ve got to avoid actions that have caused you problems in the past.

Emotions can also cause you to drift off course. When you realize you are heading in the wrong direction, you need to work to get back on track. There is a right way and a wrong way; what you should realize is that the wrong way of doing things is by trying to get everyone else to do it the “right” way.

Be prepared. Expect the unexpected. Things are going to happen along your journey. You’ve got to find it within yourself to keep moving forward.

Don’t expect your first plan to work every time. You can’t hit a home run all of the time. Be prepared with a plan B and C and G and L – you’ve got 26 letters to work with after all. Just because your first option didn’t work, doesn’t mean the next one won’t.

Most of all, you’ve got to keep an open mind. If you try something that doesn’t work, don’t get frustrated and quit. Keep at it. If it’s important to you, go that extra mile and you’ll be proud you did.